Spreader Bars

Fixed or adjustable, cuffs or clips

Choosing a bar

The first choice is fixed or adjustable. A fixed bar sets one width and holds it — simple and sturdy, nothing to move. An adjustable, telescoping one lets you set the spread, so you can start narrow and widen over time, and it copes with different body sizes far better; it's the easier pick for a first go. Then there's how the limbs attach: some arrive with padded neoprene or nylon cuffs already fitted, others are just the bar with rings or clips for adding your own handcuffs and ankle cuffs. Padding at the contact points matters most if it's staying on a while. If holding limbs together appeals more than holding them apart, hogties and connectors do that instead.

Using it safely

A rigid bar limits how someone can move or steady themselves, so a few things are worth keeping in mind. Used standing, balance goes quickly — best done near a bed or somewhere a fall won't matter. Don't over-spread: set the width to a comfortable stretch, not the limit of what the hips or shoulders will take. Keep the cuffs snug, not tight, check circulation as you go, and agree a signal to stop. For gentler, supported positions, positioning aids do the job with less strain.

Sturdy build, discreet delivery

The bars here come from established brands, built to hold firm with padded cuffs that won't dig in. Orders ship in plain, unbranded boxes that give nothing away. Order before 2pm Monday to Friday for same-day dispatch, with free UK delivery over £50 and easy returns if there's a problem.